Thursday, September 25, 2014
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Love is an interesting feeling, making it even more of an interesting word. It's a word that has the power to convey an attitude and compare material and non material things and associate them with their worth. The power of love results in actions that seem irrational, yet those somewhat ridiculous actions somehow seem acceptable because love is relatable. In the experiments involving long term relationship students in the writing by Stephanie Pappas, love created a hostile attitude towards others of the same gender. It's as if love were a priceless valuable gem that the beholder will sacrifice to protect. The connection between this article and the ted talk by the french guy is that nearly blind trust by two imperfect individuals is required, and the sacrifice given up is self mockery. Jealousy is a threat that causes the guard of them gem to increase, and causes the trust to decrease and the real sacrifice to fade. Love is essentially a gambling game, where both partners must get over imperfections and the gem of love must be embraced rather than protected. Modern love proves to be a fantasy because "perfect love", an oxymoron, is what everybody hopes for. It's very hard to give up our own fantasies built off a fake ass society and really get to know people, because it's clear that we must truly embrace their imperfections rather than judge them. Good luck with that though. Imperfections is all we have. It's as if there's a wall between us and truth. Love turns into a synonym for want, rather than a true meaning that can only be shown in a true love scenario. I find it impossible to find true love with another human, unless they have considered the real meaning of life and their place in life. Real love comes in the form of love of life itself. We must give up our individual wants and find the interconnection between every single living thing on earth. We must appreciate that we're even alive, and find others who are humble in that aspect. Those who look for acceptance through material items and hope for others to love them, to be someone's idol, will always fall short of love.
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I love this post because I can tell that you really expressed how you feel and your true understanding of what love really is. One of my favorite parts of your post other than the fact that you referred to the presenter from the Ted talk “the French guy”, is your explanation that everyone is looking for perfect love, which is out of reach and unrealistic. I completely agree with you that one of the most important aspects of love should not be about what you are getting out of the relationship, but knowing another person’s every flaw and imperfection and caring for them more because of what they’ve been through or overcome. Love should not be about the rewards you will find, but the differences you can make in someone else’s life through an indescribable connection. Loving a “perfect” person would not bring any spark or meaning to a relationship because if they were truly perfect, they would not need you. Another good point you made is that in order to love others, we must first learn to love ourselves and the world around us. By understanding how much value we have and how lucky each and every one of us in our own way, we can come to the conclusion that others may not have it how we do. Love is about not caring about imperfections and knowing inside yourself that you would give anything to just to make this person safe, loved, and happy. I believe the definition of love has changed but could easily be restored if people really knew the importance of selflessness when it comes to a relationship.
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